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If You Knit it He Will Come

Sunday, May 5th, 2013

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Carly’s friend is in her 30s and single.
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She has decided that she is going to knit a sweater for a man that she doesn’t have in her life yet.  Thinking, if she knits it he will come.
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This might seem like a crazy idea to you, but I believe in this.   This is exactly what I think she should do.  I am all in.
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It’s much like a prayer shawl.  The idea is that you knit or crochet something for someone who needs healing.  You spend your time thinking great calming, healing thoughts and then the person who gets the shawl wears it and feels your love.  The good vibes go out into the vast universe and then come billowing down on the person you knit for.  It brings them peace.
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So, why wouldn’t this work the same way?  What you put out there, you bring back to you.  It’s the law of attraction right?
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If its good enough for Oprah…
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I did something kind of like this many years ago.   I wrote a list of what I wanted in my ideal guy.
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Most of my friends were already married and having babies.  I was in my late 20s and was ready to be married too.  I was talking to my friend Earl and he asked me what I wanted in a man.  I told him some very vague attributes like…funny, happy, smart…those sorts of things.  Earl said I needed to be more specific.  Like really specific.  He said if you are specific then you won’t waste your time on men that don’t fit your list.    If you write this list, when your perfect man shows up, you’ll recognize him.
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This is how my life partner list read.
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-likes to laugh
-adores me (opens doors, gives me flowers, surprised me, romances me)
-approaches all things with a positive attitude
-respects marriage
-treats people with respect…especially his family
-5’10 or taller, shouldn’t be thinner than me
-comfortable at a formal ball or corner bar
-likes to travel and explore
-can run a power tool when needed
-wants to be a father
-enjoys a beer or two
-believes in a higher power (Catholic would be cool)
-successful enough in business to have lots of time to play
-money to play with would be nice too
-nonsmoker
-physically active (no couch potato)
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From then on, each time someone asked me why I was still single, I would pass them this list.  I would say “I haven’t found this guy yet, do you know him?”
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I met Jason about a year later. It was New Year’s Eve at O’Garas pub (corner bar – check).  He asked me to dance (surprised me – check).  I had to look up to see into his eyes  (5’10 or taller – check).   It went on like this…checking off things on my list until he asked me to marry him a year later.
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Pelletiers

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10 years, 2 kids, 1 dog, 1 cat and 1 yarn store later the list didn’t fail me.
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So, I absolutely believe, if you knit it he will come.
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I am all in!
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A little side note here…if you are interested in writing your own life partner list check out Earl’s book Finding Love on Purpose Write your own list and shoot me a copy.
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You never know:)
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